Let me take a bit of a break from saving the world to talk about something more personal.
Whether romantic or platonic, they take time. There will be occasional tension. Human beings are wired to never be completely content. We are hard wired, genetically, to be adaptable to an unfamiliar, sometimes hostile environment. True peace of mind is a pipe dream. A genetic impossibility.
Unitarians don't want to be saved! They want closure!
And that's true. We don't want to be saved. We want to KNOW!
And sometimes, we can't know everything. We are often paradoxical beings.
I seek less and less to understand and more and more to just be okay with contradiction. Not everything can be explained. There will always be unknowns.
I'm learning to be okay with that.